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The Bullying Antidote focuses on solutions. Parents will evolve.” — Dr. Laura Markham

The Bullying Antidote
is a well-researched resource for practical positive parenting skills that can help kids of all ages avoid the bullying dynamic forever. Now booking workshops for parents and teachers of pre-schoolers to teens!

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“You can stop looking now. If you are looking for the definitive book on bullying, you have found it.” — Kristin L. Roush, Ph.D., Life Coach, Psychology Professor

Honk If You Hate Bullies


Kristen Caven:

Here’s my official take on the whole make-your-kid-wear-a-sign trend.

Originally posted on The Zorgos Reader:

Lately there have been stories and photos in the news and on Facebook streams, of parents hanging signs on children to shame them for bad behavior. We would like to say that it’s cute with dogs, but it hurts children. Some parents, unfortunately, are wildly approving of this idea. I think of it as  combat parenting.

In one of our workshops, one parent thought the dad who made his son hold a poster about bullying was setting a limit. We agreed that he made a good effort to teach his son a lesson, but his method was too harsh. If the child had stood with a sign that simply said “Honk if you hate bullies,” he would have had a sufficiently eye-opening experience. But by starting the sign with “I am a bully,” this child invited honkers to hate him personally. And every viewer of the sign was put…

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Rockin’ October…


1277436_10202237007270269_877968641_o October has been a busy, super-creative, and delicious month this year! The themes are BOOKS, BAKED GOODS, and VIDEOS… I’ve been:

Meanwhile, I’m helping to decide how to both dole out grants for and raise money for teachers at Oakland Tech… all while struggling through the season’s plague of phlegm and trying to catch up on Breaking Bad before Downton Abbey starts. Never a dull moment! Coming up: if you’re in or near Napa, please catch my upcoming bullying workshops with my mom at Community Resources for Children - November 2 and 16th.

Have a slice of LitCake!


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This summer I won a great honor… first place in the California Writers Club‘s annual literary dessert contest!

The cake I made was a collaborative effort with my family; we’d made it once before for a baking contest for the teen program at Chabot Science Center. The cake represented HAL 9000, the passive-aggressive supercomputer from the Arthur C. Clarke’s 2001… and since it was powered by technology (an iPod spouting lines from the movie), it drowned out all the other cakes with its awesomeness.

Here’s HAL 9000 saying out loud what everyone was thinking…

Please join me this Sunday at my writers club’s open house! Feel free to bring a cake. And don’t worry – you won’t have HAL to compete with since I’ll be the emcee. More information here: Open House – “LitCake” party on October 20th | California Writers Club — Berkeley Branch.

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a mini-lit-cake

The cake I was proudest of… a cupcake bearing the cover of my second book, The Reason She Left!